There are many factors and stressors that affect development. However, I chose to discuss Violence. In choosing Violence it brings back memories not when I was 16 years old. I started dating the father of my oldest child. Everything was fine at first but attitudes and really bad arguments begin around the time I turn 18. I can remember my high school graduation he jumped on me because I wanted to go out and celebrate instead of being with him. That was the first time he ever hit me. After that the promise to never hit me again and after that hits and punches became regular. I remember lying to my parents like I ran into something or I fell or I would even stay weeks on campus to keep my family knowing I was in an abusive relationship. My mom has an idea of it but I would always lie because I thought I was in love. He took me down, I was even jumped on while I was eight months pregnant but did not know how to tell anyone I needed help. I had friends who would talk to me about getting out the relationship, even threatened to tell my parents but I begged them not too. However, that all came to an end when he pulled a gun on me and I knew I had to get away if not for myself for the sake for my little baby girl I had just had. I finally reach out and told my family and they literally wanted to hurt him. We were together six years and that was the most stressful period in my life. I hair fell out, my weight was up and down , my grades dropped in school, at times I could not eat or sleep, I was just down and out majority of time. Today I still have a few issues that I believe have to do with that relationship, there were many decisions I made that I did not agree with that I was forced to do that I believed hinder my development in certain areas of life. I just thank GOD for bringing me out that situation. I would not wish anything like I have experienced on anyone. I encourage anyone to get out before it's to late.
In researching about other regions or other counties that are affect by violence, I chose to discuss Mexico. The most pervasive violations of women’s rights involve domestic and sexual violence, both are widespread and vastly underreported. According to a national survey by the Secretariat of Health (SSA), one third of women in health centers and hospital were victims of domestic violence. 30-50% of women in Mexico reported that they have experienced physical violence or psychological abuse from their partners according to surveys in different localities. Because of the insufficent resources, Mexico has numerous other public health issues (aside from domestic violence), which are competing for attention and funding. While there are a few organizations and a few government institutions, adequate attention to domestic violence does not exist. However in Chihuahua Mexico, they became the first Mexican state to use satellite tracking bracelet to protect domestic violence victims. The bracelet is small snd similar to a watch. The victim will be able to call for help using their voice.
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God Bless you Jamill. You need to write a book on your testimony. It takes great courage to step away from an abusive relationship especially when the abuse comes from someone you love and trust. I appalled you for doing the right thing for you and your daughter. I also dated a guy who started to become abusive towards me. I was 21 and he was 34 my saving grace was him being deployed over seas. I broke up with him before he left but he still bothered me about being together. I celebrated when he finally shipped out! LOLLL
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Jamill, I am so sorry to hear that you had to go through that. You are such a strong woman for standing up for yourself and your daughter. I am glad to hear that there is some improvement in the abuse situation in Mexico. I think it is great they have come up with a device that women can use to report acts of violence. It provides them with an extra sense of security that is needed in such an unstable environment.
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Jamill, I am sorry you had to go through that. Domestic violence is something that is very rare in our county. I am glad you got out of the relationship alive and safe for both you are your baby's sake. I can't imagine how this situation had effected you, physical, emotional, etc. I thank God that you were strong enough to leave when you did and hope and pray that your healing process goes well.
ReplyDeleteHi Jamill, I am not a computer wiz and has been having some difficulty trying to get my post to post on the 1st page or title page of my blog site.Instead I have been posting it under my profile or hitting the home button and posting it there. I have tried everything. Is there anyway you can help me with that? Thank you for everything. My blog site is http://gallop-janell1blogspot.com or I can be reached at jangallop@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteJamill, I am glad to see that you made it through one of the most difficult times in your life I am sure. Unfortunately too many women and children are stuck in their situations and are afraid to get help. I had a friend that did not make it to her high school graduation due to her boys friend's abuse. He ended up beating her to death. I am glad you found the courage to get out of it.
ReplyDeleteThank you all for the support. I have been through alot that's why I always thank God for bringing me out. Rosalind my aunt told me the same thing she said with all you been through you could write a book or even be a mentor to speak to people who have been is situations in what I been through that can one day save someone life. Dalelisicia I tried to get on your blog site but could not. I will try it again maybe I missed a word out. I really thank you all for responding. Sometimes that's all I need for somebody to listen. Thank you all again. :)
ReplyDeleteJamil, you are one brave woman and I commend you and doing what you needed to do to change your life. In my year as a childcare director I have worked with many women that have suffered domestic violence through a battered women's shelter in my county. I did everything I could to help by providing childcare to their children. The sad part of this is that most of these women went back to their spouses. I had the deepest fear for their lives and the lives of the children.
ReplyDeleteYou are right about the women and children in Mexico because I was on vacation in Cozumel and and my family and I was just walking around shopping and we had men came up to our husbands asking them if they wanted girls as young as 9 years old. My husband wanted to kick the guys butt given the fact that we had young children with us. I felt the need to tell the police but when we did they said it was nothing they could do about it unless the act was actually going on.
Again, I commend you for taking a stand for your family especially your daughter so that she would not have to grow up seeing you get hurt.